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She’s ten. But she’s only ten.

I'm pretty sure that, at this very minute, my daughter is failing a french test.

The reason I know this is because I overheard her friends talking about the test when I dropped her off at school this morning and then I watched as my daughter's face went white.

My daughter did her homework at the kitchen table last night - she did math and english. She didn't review any french. She's only ten, she forgets stuff.

In the grand scheme of things this is okay. My youngest will probably still get into University, eight years from now, even though she may have failed a fifth grade french test today. She is, after all, only ten.

On the other hand, she shouldn't be failing tests and she needs to learn to be responsible for her own work. It's time – she's ten.

I must admit I'm feeling guilty today because I could have flipped open her homework book and checked her test schedule myself, but I didn't. She was doing her work and so I just assumed she was on top of things. She is ten.

But as I sit here a part of me knows she's failing and will feel badly about it. A big part of me wants to save her from that but there's also a big part of me that thinks this is a good lesson for her to learn. She is after all, ten.

So, is she ten? Or is she only ten?

I can't decide.


6 thoughts on “She’s ten. But she’s only ten.

  1. She’s both. Ten and *only ten* and you’re right in the grand scheme of things it is small potatoes. Hopefully she’ll learn a valuable lesson: check your test schedule often…
    Don’t feel too badly for too long. 🙂


  2. I have had this same debate with myself often. I remind myself that this is the age when she has the chance to learn to be responsible for herself when it doesn’t matter as much. Failing a French test at 10 will have no effect on her future. Failing a French test at 17 could keep her out of the college of her choice. I rather she learn the lesson of checking her assignment book at this age rather than when her grades have more influence.


  3. This is something we have been struggling with with our son. He has ADHD (inattentive) and he forgets. We try to help him, but short of going to school with him every day, there isn’t a whole lot we can do. He’s a teen now, so I DO expect more from him than when he was 10, but it’s always hard finding the right balance of understanding and firmness.


  4. My daughter is ten/only ten, too. I so understand your frustration. I fear that next she will be 11/only 11, then 12/only 12, and so on. I think that was part of the ticket I purchased 10 years ago. Great post!


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