How much help should a child get doing their homework?
At different times with my kids I've run the whole gambit while trying to help them with their homework. At times I do nothing to help and let them fail, and once I even did almost the whole project myself and, I might add, was quite proud of myself when I get a high mark from the teacher.
This weekend my son has a lot of homework, projects and a lot of extra curricular activities. He also has some invitations to do a few fun things with his friends.
My son wants to ditch the homework and projects and just go do the fun stuff. I can't really blame him.
The problem is that even though the projects may not be due for a few weeks, Tired Papa and I are going away next weekend. We're leaving the kids with our thirty something (long story – and no, I'm not really, really old. Well,unless you're my kids or any of their friends, because then I'm older than dirt) niece so I know very little is going to get done on his projects next weekend.
Part of me is thinking that if he doesn't get a good grade on a few sixth grade projects is it really the end of the world? Do you even remember what kinda marks you got in sixth grade?
On the other hand, I don't want to set the idea in his little head that school work is optional and that marks don't matter, because in time they will matter and they'll matter a lot.
I'm trying to find the middle ground here and I must admit I'm struggling. Part of me wants to just chuck all the projects and homework and let him play hockey, go to the movies with his buddies and uh, be an eleven year old boy.
The other part of me wants him to study all weekend, get into medical school at say, twelve and look after me, in very high style, in my old age.
Balance is a bitch.