Today is my son's eleventh birthday. I'll spare you the whole 'where does the time go' speech, but I assure you I'm thinking it.
He's a great kid – thoughtful, warm, bright and everything I could have hoped for in a son. I love him more than anything and he and his sister's are the world to me.
Happy Birthday Buddy. I love you.
To celebrate the event we had five of my son's buddies over for a sleep over yesterday. It went well and because my son has good, well behaved friends there were no problems.
I organized this event by talking personally to all the boy's Moms who were invited. I didn't send out invitations because we weren't inviting many kids.
I also didn't send out invitations because I didn't want to get involved in the whole 'who's invited and who's not' thing.
Is the whole birthday party invitation thing a big fiasco where you live too? Do the popular kids get invited to everything and the quieter kids sometimes get left out? How do you handle it?
My youngest wasn't invited to a large birthday party a few weeks ago but she wasn't upset as she didn't know the birthday boy that well. She's also fairly confident and happy-go-lucky so it really didn't faze her at all. I am blessed. There were tears though from some of her classmates who weren't invited, and some of the other Mom's were furious at the 'birthday kid's Mom' for handing out the invitations at school but not including everyone. Yep, words were exchanged.
I get the other parent's frustration and angst over their kid's disappointment but you know what? It's a kid's party. Not everyone is going to be invited, budgets just aren't always going to allow that.
Besides, shouldn't we be teaching our kids to handle disappointment and loss? Isn't that a life skill we need to teach them young? In real life you don't get a trophy just for showing up.
Which I grant you, is easy for the mother of the 'happy-go-lucky' one to say. My daughter wasn't in tears, but I wonder what I would have done if she was? I wonder if the Mama Bear in me would have come out then too. I hope not. But honestly? I wonder.